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Feb. 24th, 2008 08:27 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ashleyfanficSo, someone really hurt my feelings last night.
I was out to eat with my parents and their friends and my mom was joking around saying that she wanted me to marry this guy that goes to their church that the friends also know. And the woman says to me, without me even really engaging the conversation, "You'll have to lose weight first. You're just too big for little Jim."
Now, you would think that a woman in her late 40s early 50s, who has never been overweight, would have enough sense not to say that to anyone. But she did. I didn't even know what to do. I was so surprised that she'd actually said it out loud that I just stared at her. When I got in the car, I told my mom that she really hurt my feelings and my dad was like "What did she say" and I told him and he was like "When did she say that?" and I explained the conversation, and my dad said that my mom shouldn't have said anything in the first place that she knew I didn't like her joking around about that, especially in front of people who know him. So, I'm sitting here, a day later, and my feelings are still hurt. When a child does it, it's one thing. They don't know any better most of the time, but when an adult does it, a person who knows that words can hurt, it just flat out sucks.
Looking back on it, I should have insisted that they let me out of the booth because I didn't want to sit there for another hour with her. I didn't even talk the rest of the meal. I barely ate my dinner. My dad said that she probably didn't even realize what she had said until after she'd said it. But that doesn't make the pain go away. He also said that in her head she was probably helping.
Oh, and they made me go to dinner with them in the first place because they'd told the two, who have no children but like to tell everyone else how to raise theirs, about my brother Adam and my dad and mom didn't want her to lecture them about it. Donna said that my parents should make Adam and Britni sign a contract about paying back the money and stuff for their wedding and living expenses. My parents would NEVER do that. First of all, we're their children and they would like to see that my brother has a good wedding. Second, they know my brother can't afford a wedding. Third, they want to be around their grandbaby a lot. My parents are now really excited and my dad really wants a girl. In fact, he's calling the baby Emma. Instead of being angry and disowning my brother, my parents are doing everything they can to help him. But this woman thinks that my parents are wrong, and maybe they are. But she has no children and therefore shouldn't be allowed to sit in judgement of my parents.
Gah, she just pisses me off. Can you tell?
I was out to eat with my parents and their friends and my mom was joking around saying that she wanted me to marry this guy that goes to their church that the friends also know. And the woman says to me, without me even really engaging the conversation, "You'll have to lose weight first. You're just too big for little Jim."
Now, you would think that a woman in her late 40s early 50s, who has never been overweight, would have enough sense not to say that to anyone. But she did. I didn't even know what to do. I was so surprised that she'd actually said it out loud that I just stared at her. When I got in the car, I told my mom that she really hurt my feelings and my dad was like "What did she say" and I told him and he was like "When did she say that?" and I explained the conversation, and my dad said that my mom shouldn't have said anything in the first place that she knew I didn't like her joking around about that, especially in front of people who know him. So, I'm sitting here, a day later, and my feelings are still hurt. When a child does it, it's one thing. They don't know any better most of the time, but when an adult does it, a person who knows that words can hurt, it just flat out sucks.
Looking back on it, I should have insisted that they let me out of the booth because I didn't want to sit there for another hour with her. I didn't even talk the rest of the meal. I barely ate my dinner. My dad said that she probably didn't even realize what she had said until after she'd said it. But that doesn't make the pain go away. He also said that in her head she was probably helping.
Oh, and they made me go to dinner with them in the first place because they'd told the two, who have no children but like to tell everyone else how to raise theirs, about my brother Adam and my dad and mom didn't want her to lecture them about it. Donna said that my parents should make Adam and Britni sign a contract about paying back the money and stuff for their wedding and living expenses. My parents would NEVER do that. First of all, we're their children and they would like to see that my brother has a good wedding. Second, they know my brother can't afford a wedding. Third, they want to be around their grandbaby a lot. My parents are now really excited and my dad really wants a girl. In fact, he's calling the baby Emma. Instead of being angry and disowning my brother, my parents are doing everything they can to help him. But this woman thinks that my parents are wrong, and maybe they are. But she has no children and therefore shouldn't be allowed to sit in judgement of my parents.
Gah, she just pisses me off. Can you tell?